If you made it here, it is likely due to the newly revamped website northshorelawfirm.com Hurray! I know how painful and sensitive the divorce process, particularly in the Milwaukee area, can be. I thought I would start with a divorce/lawyer joke or two just to lighten the mood. The first one: a judge was reading out his decision on the four items of property: the car goes to the wife, the tools go to the husband, the retirement accounts go to the wife and (Ha Ha) the house goes to the divorce lawyer.
The second one: One client was about to start his first divorce hearing. He asked another client who had just finished his case: why is a divorce so expensive? The second client stared at the first client and grinned. He then slowly said “because it is sooo worth it”
O.k. those aren’t the funniest jokes ever but I do find it helps to try to laugh a bit during this difficult time. I have often said that while several clients have died during the pendency of their case, no one has actually died from a divorce. If you are feeling stressed or down or nervous while thinking about or going through a divorce, I think it is good to seek out resources that can help you. Friends can be great support. Bookstores have self help books that can help. Counseling is great. Don’t be afraid to ask around.
In future blog posts, I am going to post ideas that I hope can help YOU get through your divorce situation and respond to the ‘frequently asked questions’ that most people have.
Here are a few: KNOW YOUR JUDGE. Some judges in Milwaukee, Ozaukee, Waukesha, Racine Kenosha or elsewhere do things ‘their own way’. For example, I heard one judge say “I don’t like splitting placement time during the school year”. This is not the standard position and it is good to know this going in! Other judges simply do NOT grant adjournments….even for good reasons. There is little sense trying to convince these judges to give you one.
WHAT ABOUT MY NEW GIRL/BOYFRIEND? The simple answer is keep them out of the picture during a placement or custody dispute. Of course, sometimes this is not totally practical. Further, the new significant other is more of a long standing friend who is great with your children. You really need to carefully think about when and how you bring this up in front of the children.
WHO SHOULD MOVE OUT? If custody and placement are not at issue, it generally does not matter. However, keep in mind that the person who moves out often takes less ‘stuff’ as a practical matter. It may cost you enough to bother you, but not enough to hire an appraiser. In that case, the person who moves out may come out a little bit more ‘in the hole’.
INFIDELITY? By statute, Wisconsin is a no fault state. If custody or placement are issues, the issue of infidelity could affect the case if the infidelity has somehow caused damage to the children. In practice, infidelity is usually NOT a significant factor in outcomes.
More in future posts!